Basic Body Language Tips

Basic

"One of the most common types of body language is the smile. The smile is a universal sign of acceptance and happiness. A smile that reaches the eyes is a genuine smile that says you are welcome to come closer.


Something else to look for is eye contact. Sometimes you can almost feel someone looking at you, or you catch it from the corner of your eye. If someone you may find interesting is looking at you, turn towards him or her and lock eyes, but for only a few seconds. A direct stare lasting more than a few moments can be considered aggressive or hostile. Hold the contact for a few moments and then look down. Don't forget to smile.


If you can see someone looking at you from across the room look for other signs of interest. A person may gaze at you, look away, and then return their gaze to you again. They will probably have a slight smile on their face. If you turn and catch the gaze, and they smile or even blush and look down, you have caught their interest.


When you are talking with someone for the first time there are quite a few signals they can give you as to their willingness to continue the conversation. Subtle non-verbal signs are given off that can say "I like you" or "I am interested".


One thing that is hard to catch is pupil dilation. When a person is looking at something they are interested in, whether it is a person or an item, their pupils will dilate. Smart salespersons can catch this with a prospective client and know they are close to a sale.


Something else to look for is body position. A person who is interested will often standing with their body facing you directly. If they can't directly face you, they will angle their body in your direction the best they can. Open and upright palms are a good sign; this means the person is open to you. Sometimes preening can occur. This is normally a subconscious thing that most people don't even realize they are doing. Women will most often play with their hair, swirl it around their finger, or toss it over their shoulder. Men tend to stand straighter, play with their ties or shirt buttons, or wipe away imaginary lint. This signals an attempt to look their best for the person they are engaged with in conversation.


When the person you are talking with is sitting, here are a few things to consider. A person who is sitting with legs slightly apart and knees pointed in your direction is open to you. If they have their legs crossed, they may not be interested. However, legs crossed loosely with a foot or leg pointed at you is that person subconsciously pointing at what they want, and that is you! Arms crossed over the chest or a person's hands stuffed into their pockets are signs that they are closed off and don't feel comfortable opening up to your attention. This can be a tricky sign though, because it can also be a sign that they are slightly uncomfortable with themselves, not a signal for you to back off.


Women, and sometimes men, will lick their lips briefly or bite their lower lip. This is a good sign. They may touch you briefly in a safe area, such as your back or your arm. This will usually be quick and innocent, but conveys a sense that they want to touch you more.


One big sign of interest is mirroring. You may notice that the other person is mimicking your movements or gestures. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and this is a good example of that. You may also notice that the person will tilt their head to the side while listening to you speak. This is another sign of attraction and interest. "


What you wanna say with your body

During the approach you must make sure your body isn't threatening. If a girl dropped something and kept walking without noticing. You would pick it up and lightly jog it back to her. Can you imagine how she would react if you came up to her in a full sprint? This is a very good analogy when thinking about your initial body language.


I read somewhere an article where women gave feedback as the same PUA approached each of them. 3 of the 4 women claimed he looked at them like he wanted to rip their clothes off and it completely turned them on. They were also completely confused because they said they felt like he wasn't interested.


You want to look at a woman as if she's the sexiest thing you've ever seen, but convey a sense of no attraction making her not feel threatened but turned on.


The Alpha Male's body language should portrait qualities of: Aggressiveness, Assertiveness, Courage, and Persistence.


I say this time and time again. Most guys put women on a pedastool because of their upbringing. Let's put ourselves in their positions. Would you be turned on by some guy who comes and gives you some corny line and stands right in front of you completely blocking any view you have? NO!
Would you be turned on by the guy who gives you some sexy eye contact and approaches teasingly and sits very comfortably and laid back out of your view? YES!


You always want to set yourself in position slightly away from where her body is pointing. When she points her body to yours you know you have built some attraction.

written by: BBX