Mastering Sexual Body Language by 8

Part 1: "Mastering Body Language"

Women are experts at reading your body's unconscious signals. It is the closest thing to telepathic communication there is, and yet most of us guys are oblivious to it. It is a tricky business because you have to not only focus on how you communicate these signals, but also interpret hers. This is one of the first things you need to work on. Trust me!

Film Yourself
Just as you can improve your voice with a tape recorder, you can improve your Body Language with a video camera. If at all possible, try to get someone to film you at a social gathering. It is painful to watch yourself in the beginning, especially if you are as awkward as I was, but this really helps you to pinpoint your weaknesses so you can improve on them. Highly recommended!

Here are some areas you should pay attention to:

Posture
I was once a huncher. Shoulders rolled over, head down, very submissive body language all around really. I used to approach girls and they would always seemed creeped out by me. (Gee I wonder why) I didn't know how bad I was until one of my girl buddies pointed it out to me. She was a professional dancer, and as part of her training at dance school, she learned how to perfect her posture. Although I thought it was a ridiculous idea at first, but she finally dragged me into a few classes so I could learn...

The Alexander Technique

I could go on & on about how amazing this technique is, but will just share a few highlights that helped me improve.

The Importance of Symmetry - Using your mind, imagine an invisible vertical line dividing your body in half. Try to create a sense that each half is a mirrored image of the other. Aside from the ergonomic aspects of this, it has been scientifically proven that in nature, symmetry is an attractive quality. In other words, don't cross your legs when you sit, and don't shift all your weight to one leg when you stand. Be balanced.

Spinal Alignment - Think of your spine as a stack of coins. Each disc of your vertebrae should be balanced on top of the other, with your skull comfortable perched atop. The key is to become aware of your posture, which alone takes practice. I printed the words "Sit up Straight" next to my computer as a reminder and it worked for me. When you catch yourself slumping, imagine your head as a helium balloon pulling your spine straight. Try to keep your ribs and hips aligned with each other as much as possible. When you bend over, bend at the waist and slightly bend your knees, instead of curving your spine. It takes practice but basically it is a balance of keeping yourself upright without looking like a stiff jackass. You find your alignment and at the same time relax into it. To really get a feel of how your spine is supposed to be aligned, lay on the floor on your back and bend your knees. so your feet are planted on the floor. Take a few deep breaths.

Trapezius Balance - The trapezius is one of the most abused muscles in the body. The problem is that we either hunch over too much or overdo the opposite extreme by sticking our chests out. To find the ideal middle-ground, imagine a force pulling your shoulder blades apart and widening your back, this not only helps to release the tension stored in the midsection of this muscle, but also increases your perceived width and presence. I have had people ask me if I have been hitting the gym ever since I adopted this posture! The upper section of the trapezius also suffers alot of tension, this is the muscle that stretches from your shoulders to your neck. This tension can be alleviated by becoming aware of your collar bones. They should always form a straight line, parallel to the ground. In other words, don't scrunch them up so that they for a "v" and don't push them down so the form an "A"

As you can see, it is very difficult to explain this technique with words. But the effect of it is amazing. Not only do you appear more confident, but adopting this posture actually makes you FEEL more on point.The classes, though expensive, are well worth taking...or you could try dating some professional dancers

Improving your posture is definitely worth your while, but will only get you so far. I mean you are not going to sit/stand still as a gargoyle all night are ya? Sooner or later you are going to have to show some

Movement
First of all, slowwwwww down there, Speedy. By maintaining a relaxed deliberate pace, you create a subtle sense of confidence and peace about you which you completely internalize and radiate onto others. React calmly to everything around you. Don't whip your head around or dart your eyes to absorb your scenario. Turn slowly and dont let your body transmit messages of shock or fear. Act like you are GOD and the world is all yours and its all good. Carry yourself with respect/pride and people will assume you are a king amongst men.

Also don't gesture too wildly when you speak. It is great to accent your speech with gestures but your arms should not be flailing unless you are telling a fascinating story and have reached a dramatic climax. For the most part, you should try to keep your hand movements around the waist/ribcage level. Also, unless you enjoy looking real insecure and nervous, don't bite nails, fidget or play with things in your hands. Don't know what to do with those fingers? Either hold a drink, let them hang at your sides, or best of all, get some kino going!

Presence
In the animal kingdom, males are known to increase their perceived size to attract females. Exude an attractive, confident vibe by leaning back and taking up as much space as possible. In other words, try not to sit like a girl! Spread those legs like you have a 15" c?ck and its the only way you can sit comfortably. When standing, keep your feet about shoulder width apart. Fill the world with your presence!

Interpreting Her Signals Pay Attention to her posture/gestures
ANXIOUS - Fidgeting, foot tapping, nail-biting, rigid posture, no eye contact, spastic motions, shoulders scrunched. (This bytch is fukkin CRAZY! Run away!)
DISINTERESTED - Feet are pointing away from you, body leans away, arms are crossed, glancing at watch, fleeting eye contact with no smile (Looks like you got some more work to do)
INTERESTED - Feet are pointing towards you, body leans in, palms are exposed, smiling or laughing (Getting warmer)
SEXUALLY INTERESTED - heavy eye contact, stroking of hair or any object in hand. Raising one eyebrow in a subtle twitch. Lip licking, side-long glances, tilting head at an angle (kind of like when you are about to kiss) Stealing glances at lips, neck, chest while biting her lip, (She wants to eat you alive)

Indicators of Interest How does she respond to you?
? You get close to her and she doesn't step away.
? She laughs a lot, even at your weaker jokes.
? You make eye contact and she smiles.
? You say something insightful and she gives you the DDB look. (Doggie Dinner Bowl)
? You tease her and she makes witty comebacks of her own (Oooh, this one's a keeper. Better keep them skills sharp son!)
? You keep teasing her and she hits you playfully (Extreme flirting, she wants you!)
? You touch her and she touches you back.
? You try to leave and she keeps talking to you.

There are tons more and I don't feel like typing them all.

Mimicking Signals a.k.a. "Mirroring"
When I first started working on my game, I would mirror people all the time. I'd adopt their pose, even their breathing in hopes that I could create a shared experience with them. It worked pretty well in terms of pacing their reality, but I found I had better luck when I just used it to calibrate their feelings and then led them with my body language. After all, when dealing with a nervous person, the last thing you want to do is escalate this vibe by mirroring it. These days I have more fun with what I call...

Extreme Mirroring
Remember when you were little and you would imitate and mock what people said, just to be a pain in the ass? This is the same concept applied to body language.

I love to do this. Sometimes I will see a HotBabe who is all stuck up and walking with an exaggerated swagger, so I walk up behind her and imitate her perfectly, pushing my nose up like I am a snob. Usually gets a few laughs from the crowd and surprisingly enough, the babe!

Other times I will come across an apprehensive chick who I can tell is a little wary of me by her crossed arms, knit brow and lack of eye contact. So I copy her to the point of outrageousness and unless she is an evil bytch, I usually break the ice with a few laughs. I have discovered this method on my own but was recently intrigued by TylerDurden's take on this...

Body Language Call-Outs
When you approach girls in groups, you will notice all sorts of silent cues they give each other. Sometimes they will look at each other and smile, which means you are IN. Other times, you will see them look at each other and make a slight face and then ignore you. You have been frozen out! This is where you can use your knowledge of body language to your advantage and call them out on their bullshyt.

Here is an example from an approach I did the other day in front of a restaurant. (Thanks for the extra spin on this Stevie PUA!)

ME: Hey, just so you know, this restaurant is not the best one on the block. You should really try XYZ on 8th Street.
HB1: Um..Thanks (Totally closed posture, crossed arms and looks at HB2 like "who is this loser?" and I get freezed out by the bytch shields)
ME: Ha! I know what is going on here. (Pause as I eye them knowingly) Just now you looked at your friend and did one of these. (Copy their body language and the "look" they gave each other, then smile) You just basically told her "Who is this loser trying to chat us up? Let's just ignore him and hope he leaves". (shocked faces) I'm a master at reading body language. C'mon, you guys are going to have to do better than that!
HB1&2: (Laughing)

And so the ice is broken, because I have paced their reality perfectly and commented on something so subconscious that they were not even aware of it. I also stand out because the average guy would just get discouraged and walk away or diss them instead of making a joke about it and winning them over. How many guys do you think they meet who would react like this? That's right, practically NONE! This is why I love learning about seduction. Smooth players are more rare than HB10's!

TD's Angle Theory
When you initiate conversation with a girl, don't let your body face her. Facing someone implies a confrontation and your aim is to disarm people with your charm, not beat them over the head with it. When you spot that fineass honey, saunter over to her side and turn your head to speak to her. Once contact is initiated, let your body serve as a barometer of her reactions. The colder her responses the more you turn away from her. The warmer her responses, the more you turn to face her.

I thought this technique was total BS till I tried it out for myself. Works so well it is almost scary! I unconsciously use this technique throughout the exchange. She says something stupid or boring and my body turns away slightly. Neutral convos dont change my position at all. But when she says something interesting, I turn my body to face her and lean in slightly. The gesture seems to communicate "Oh really? Do tell me more!" It is fascinating to see her eyes light up because she has earned my undivided attention.

TakeAways
Learn when to turn your back on her to build tension and suspense.

The Turn Around - This one is great. Look for any opportunity to disagree or disapprove then turn your back on her.

YOUo you know how to give massages?
HER:Not really.
YOU:No massage skills? Pfffft! (turn your back on her for 5 seconds and then turn back to face her) Well are you willing to learn how to massage?
HER:Oh yes!
YOU:Alright cool, we can hang. (put your arm around her as if she earned it)

The Teaser - At a high point of the conversation, when she is laughing and really enjoying your company, tell her you have to greet other friends and you will see her around. Don't wait for her response, just leave her standing there, wondering about you and eventually missing you. If you are a real scoundrel, you can just leave without saying a word!

Body and its Effect on Mind
Use your body to communicate that you are confident, laid back and unfazed by ANYTHING. This alone will help you make big improvements. The interesting thing about body language is that it has a profound effect on your mood. A hunched back and lowered gaze creates feelings of insecurity and isolation. A head held up proudly is the first step to feeling like you OWN your life as you silently command respect!

Part 2: "Sexual Body Language" by 8

Okay, now that you have a firm grasp of body-language dynamics, let's dive into the real juicy stuff here: sexual body language.

I just want to state a disclaimer here that this shit is my own style and practice, so you know where it's coming from.

First thing's first, your inner game. You CANNOT have fully successful sexual body-language without a SOLID inner game.

First off: Fuck the "angle theory" (which is not even Tyler Durden's to begin with. It's just an analysis of Mystery's Body Language). That is for frame-building. Everything I'm talking about here is sexuality. We want to COMPLETELY BYPASS the whole process of interest, attraction, rapport, blah blah blah.. Our only goal here is to initiate sexual arousal right from the start.

This means bombarding the girl with sexually suggestive movements and body-placements.

The key here is to make sure that NOTHING seems intentional. You should not even seem AWARE of it. But SHE will be aware of it... subconsciously. And eventually, the more you turn her on, the more consciously she will start to notice. But by then, she will no longer have resistance, and her conscious notice of your sexuality will only further build her desire.

Okay, but how do we get the ball rolling?

Groin-Magnet:

When you're standing with your target and talking, you want to push your hips towards her. If you were to draw a vertical line down from your nose, straight to the ground.. you want your crotch to stick out PAST that line. BUT here's the key to making this work: this doesn't have to be constant, and it should NEVER be obvious. Throw it in as "maneuvers", such as reaching into your pocket for your cellphone: push your crotch out and break that vertical line. You laugh: push your crotch out and break that vertical line. Something distracts you and you look away: push your crotch out and break that vertical line. You can see it is a suggestive posture that you disguise as part of another movement. For it to be effective, you should be directly in line with her crotch area, for obvious psychological reasons.

This is as psychologically arousing to girls as it is arousing for us to see a girl from behind bend over. Her position is suggestive of receiving penetration. Your position is going to be suggestive of GIVING penetration. Make sense? All you need to do is suggest it as often as you like, and as prominently as you like, WITHOUT it being consciously noticable (otherwise you just look like a creep and a nutjob).

Your stance should always be wider than her stance. You want to dominate her in every body-language aspect... the space she takes up is no different. This is why girls are attracted to taller guys, because they vertically dominate them. Do the same thing with your leg/feet placement. Instead of dominating her height, though, in this case, you are going to be dominating the width of her hips and thighs. The same holds true with your upper-body and your arm placements. I like to keep my thumbs in my belt loops on each hip.. it's kind of a chicken-wing posture thing, but it projects my elbows outwards and widens my space.. it also gives my shoulders and chest a better posture.

I've already mentioned showing your adam's-apple many times in other posts, along with the underside of your chin. This is just more sexual suggestion cues, both that you are a testosterone-filled male (adam's apple), and suggesting height dominance (underside of chin). You can suggest height dominance in this way even if you are shorter than her. The key is to make it un-noticable that you are doing this. All these tips are like magic tricks.. they are only powerful if they are accepted.. but once you start to think "hey, this person is doing a trick", it loses all effectiveness. The same is true with your posturing.. once she realizes you are posturing, you have lost. So keep it subtle.

You can hold manuevers for just split-seconds at a time, and they will still be registered in her subconcious mind. Later on, as you get more comfortable and sufficient at it, you will get better at holding postures longer and longer, without her noticing.

Self-fullfilling prophecy, telepathic-seduction:

If you assume and KNOW that the girl you are talking to WANTS to fuck you.. your body-language will express yourself as a sexually desired man.. and suddenly, she WILL start to think about fucking you.

You need SOLID inner game to get into this mindset.. but once you can, you'll see how shockingly easy it is to get girls turned on just by BELIEVING that you are already turning them on.

This applies to eye-contact as well. If you ASSUME and KNOW that your eye-contact sexually arouses a girl, then your eye-contact will be sexually arousing! How simple!

If you ASSUME and KNOW that your voice sexually arouses a girl, then she will be turned on by the way you speak to her!

Where can you get all this solid inner game from? Well, besides consciously working on improving my inner game, I've also been SUBconsciously working on my inner game, using Ross Jeffries' Induction-Hypnosis Affirmations technique.

For those of you that didn't read my post on this, I'll break it down simple: you record yourself saying affirmations that are phrased in a "you"-form description statement, that reflects HOW you want to be.

Then you simply listen to this recording of your affirmations while you are NOT paying attention to what you are hearing. This means putting it into your ipod and putting your earbuds in, and listening to it while you read, or play guitar, or (my favorite), while you SLEEP.

Your conscious doesn't pay attention to it, but your subconscious hears every word, and the more you do it, the more you are hypnotizing yourself to believe your own affirmations. Here are a few that I've written and recorded, that I listen to on a 10-minute loop every night as I fall asleep:

This alone has been the biggest improvement in my game. Hypno-induction affirmations are basically the SHORTCUT method to acheiving the same solid inner game that naturals have developed from a lifetime of experiences. You are just bypassing the process and planting the mindsets directly. It's like game-steroids. Please, for the love of the game, at least TRY IT for a week. If you don't see any improvement, I'll personally mail you a thousand dolars. That's how confident I am. Besides, there's no such thing as a dolar anyways. ; ) But really.. I'm beginning to believe that you can make affirmations for EVERY aspect of your game and see exponential improvements. Just make sure your affirmations are read slowly, clearly, and with natural speech. You're essentially going to be talking to yourself while you sleep, so it should sound like how you talk. 

After about 2 weeks of this, I walk around now believing 100% that the way I move is sexually arousing to girls... and what happens? I get looks from girls left and right. I get, and give, eye-fucks constantly now. I talk to girls without saying anything meaningful, while I'm fully convinced that my voice is turning them on, and they start giving me SOIs. I hardly even need to spit game to create attraction anymore. Now, my the game I spit is just to ESCALATE that attraction that my body-language, eye-contact, and vocal tonality has already created. 

It's all a reflection of solid inner game and altering your own perceptions to affect the perceptions of your targets. Your inner game reflects your outer reality. 

And the final secret: casual indifference. You don't go around staring at girls and thrusting your hips around like you know you're god's gift to women. You disguise all of it as if you are distracted. Like nothing is out of the ordinary. Keep it subtle, but strong. Suggestive, but undetectable. These are subliminal messages that you are transmitting. They should go unnoticed, and sink in to create reflexive responses. 

I know this may sound like total bullshit, but if you really try to grasp this, you WILL grasp it. And then you'll see just how strong your seductive powers can really be. The key is in you. You just need to learn how to turn it.