Night Game Newbie?

I've been talking to quite a few people over MSN for the past couple of weeks who seem to be having trouble with night game. I have great success and believe day game to be the more difficult of the two. 

Intimidation 

Clubs, bars, dance floors, all of these things can be intimidating at first sight. There are guys older, bigger, maybe even more good looking or with more confidence than you have. They bring you down almost and make you feel almost unworthy of approaching. Then when you do gather up the balls to approach or make a move towards some kind of interaction, you're rejected, because your game is completely thrown off. 

Don't be intimidated, none of those guys out there have the training or knowledge that you do. Sit back and laugh at their pathetic attempts to get laid. You may notice it works for some guys, simply because girls in these places are EASY. Think about it, what are they there for? Sometimes women feel so defeated when they AREN'T approached, they accept the first guy that talks to them. 

New to the Scene? 

So you may just now be getting into the bar/club scene for age or personal purposes. You have gathered enough confidence to display yourself in public and open yourself socially. Clubs and bars have the same setting, all women there looking for men, or are there with their friend who is looking for man. They don't go public and spend all that money with their best clothes on to NOT get approached, they can do that at home. 

Don't be shy. At no time, should you feel embarrassed or nervous, think about how many idiots are out there trying to pick up women with, "Hey, you're cute can I have your number," or "I smell your ovaries." I've seen it work before. 

A big mistake newcomers make is being 'cute.' This is often misinterpreted as laughter at you. Don't take it the wrong way, but it's not the greatest thing to be 'cute' either. 

If you walk into a club geeking out, with a big grin on your face chatting away and dancing crazy to every song you hear attempting to raise your social value. Social value in a club is NOT about how many guys you are with. It's the number of women that find you acceptable and associate with you. Women are always aware of this. You can walk around with all your buddies thinking your cool, but she'll be like, 'look at these guys wondering around with no balls enough to approach us.' 

If you're with your friends, don't feel obligated to be around them all the time. 

I repeat this over and over, because it's critical. Your energy level should not exceed the woman's. Just like you shouldn't show interest until she does, your energy shouldn't be higher than hers. Attitude is key. 

Approaching/Opening 

Good openers in this scene are those that ask for opinion, because it gains instant interest in your subject and she focuses on what you're saying. Having her attention is the first step. Here's a few examples: 

"Hey can I ask you guys for help? My friend told me I looked like Sloth from the Goonies. What do you think?" 

"Hey play a game with me? My friend and I are debating if women find Bill Clinton sexy. What do you think?" 

You see this format now. It works with decent success. While asking this question you want to gradually turn your body away from hers seeming disinterested when she starts to answer. Because of the question she'll feel obliged to follow your action and you'll be able to isolate her and capture her attention and interest. 

Building Attraction 

This should occur after you've opened and captured her interest. This is how you lead the conversation after the opener. Here you want to DHV and/or disqualify. Continuing from earlier examples: 

Her: "No you don't look like him, that's so mean! I can't believe someone would say that haha." 
"It's funny though because he just had one of those face transformations, he kinda looks like you now. 
or 
"It doesn't really matter. It's just funny." 

The first one is a disqualifier, the second DHV, because she has shown interest in a subject and you raise above it. 

Her: "Bill Clinton is definite sexy. I would do a lot to get with a president. Why?" 
or 
Her: "Bill Clinton is hideous, he's a very disgusting man. Why?" 

"That's kinda gross, maybe if you were 20 years older." 
or 
"He's a man of power, guess you couldn't handle it." 

Once you've built the small amount of attraction you can move on to rapport and chat up a little, throw in kino with humor and make a move to close. Touching is welcome by them if you've made it through this stage. 

Closing 

Going for numbers is easy, but you don't want to mess the close up after all the energy spent pulling her. So closing don't ask for the number, it gives her a chance to say, and she's already attracted, so of course she'll say yes. Use things like: 

"You're alright, put your number in my phone and I'll call you sometime." 
"You're cute, give me your number and we'll hang out sometime." 

Closing like this makes her feel rewarded, because throughout it all you've taken control to the point where she's now pursuing you.

written by: BBX