Opener Comfort on Both Sides

When approaching women you must be comfortable with yourself, the energy that you bring to the interaction is the energy that she is going to feel because you are the one doing the advancing. 

The idea of neggatory or canned openers can bring a PUA out of his/her comfort zone. The discomfort or irregularity that you feel will envoke your target. It's true that it's not really what you say but how you say it. What about those of us who don't know what to say though? 

I've developed a small system to effectively maintain your comfort level, convey an attracive quality, and start and lead a small conversation. I'll first give you a few field tested examples of this opener theory put to work, all of them being posotive. 

Examples: 

- Me: Hey, the "C" on your shirt looks like it came from the alphabet soup I just had. 
Her: Haha, that's funny. 
Me: I mean, I don't like it enough to put it on my shirt, but yeah it's good stuff. 
Her: Haha, it's not from soup silly. I'm Courtney. 

- Me: Your shoes remind me of the one Kim Possible wears on the Disney Channel, she's so cool. 
Her: *laughs* Why are you watching Kim Possible. 
Me: Because they didn't have super cool shows like that when I was growing up. 
Her: How old are you? I used to watch TMNT. 
Me: Pfft that's lame, Speed Racer was kick ass, I'm 21. 
Her: He was cool, you remember Bananas in Pajamas? 

When you approach your target in this manner, you display confidence, humor, comfort with yourself, as well as an unaggressive and playful attitude. Take something about your target and relate it to something funny, childish things work well. You could also relate it to an event, anything political is fun too because debates start. 

Using an opener like this you lead and hold a conversation, meaning if you find anything unattractive about your target during conversation, you can step out whenever you'd like as well. Your target take her guard down for you and completely opens up honestly and comfortably. 

Try making a few yourself.

written by: BBX