The Basics Of a Cold Approach Pickup

This article is going to be the basics of picking up a girl. I know we've all been in this situation. You see a beautiful girl with a group of her friends and you want to talk to her, but you don't know what to say and you're scared. Also, this article is for approaching girls in the day time, like at a mall.

First, let's go over this irrational fear of approaching girls.

Approach Anxiety

Approach anxiety (AA) is the nervous feeling you get when you're about to talk to an attractive girl. This feeling is irrational. You have no reason to be afraid. What's the worst that could happen? Honestly, the worst thing that could happen is that she'll tell you she has a boyfriend and you leave. It's really no big deal. The more approaches you will do, the less you'll be scared. The mindset you should have when approaching is to have fun and not worry about the outcome.

The Opener

The "opener" is the opening sentence you make to the girl or group of girls. There are many different types of openers. A lot of begginers will use pre-planned openers, while I'll just say what's on the top of my head. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. The best type of openers for begginers are "opinion openers". It's non-threatening and gives you a legitimate reason to be talking to the girls. An example of an opinion opener is the "Who Lies More?". Basically you go up and you ask the girls if they think guys lie more or girls. This will interest the girls and they'll tell you what they think. Another type of opener is the "direct opener" where you basically tell them that you're interested (indirectly). This way is a lot harder though. The girls will be constantly testing you if you do the second way. An example of a direct opener is "You guys have a really great energy, I had to come over and say hi". To be honest, the openers don't really matter as long as they serve their purpouse; to get you in.

Building Attraction

Right after the opener, what you're going to want to do is build attraction. You build attraction by teasing a girl, and showing disinterest. What you'll want to do is be nice to her friends, but express disinterest in the girl you're going for. This will make her chase you and it'll also gain the approval of her friends. Make sure to be playful though, don't flat out insult her. A good way of showing disinterest is by using a "neg". I made a post about that, go check it out. Another thing you're going to have to do is to display high value by telling stories about your life. No need to lie though as I'm against lying to girls. You should be talking to them for at least 5 minutes.

Building Rapport

Here you're going to build a connection. You do this by trying to relate to the girl and by telling stories on a subject that you have similar interests in. It is essential to build rapport, or the girl won't go on a date with you, even if you get her number. Numbers mean nothing.

The Close

This is where you're going to get her number or take it further. When you get her number, don't ask for it. Just give her your phone and say "you're an interesting person, put your number in my phone and we'll hang out". You'll have a much higher success rate if you tell her to do it, rather than ask. You can either do this, or go on an instant date. Just tell her to go to coffee with you or something. This will greatly improve your chances of a day 2 with her. After that, get her number.

This is the BASIC way to pickup a girl, even though there's A LOT more involved. If I were to get technical with it, it would take me a really long time to write. This is the fundamentals and it shouldn't take much else to pickup a girl. Only do this though, if you've read my other articles as you'll be needing that information. Good luck!

This article was written by #1 a member of the Street Team.