Tips on Creating Attraction

Confidence

One of the most important rules of attraction, one must have confidence in one's self and one's abilities. Males and females are naturally attracted to people that are sure of themselves. Demonstrate that you trust yourself and believe in yourself and others will take notice and do so too. Doing so will benefit all areas of your life: your job, your hobbies, and your relationships (friends AND girlfriends).

I have found that the most successful and happy men all have faith in themselves and are successful as a result of it. These are the guys that aren't afraid to voice their opinion, speak their mind, ask for that raise, or approach that intelligent pretty girl. You've seen it, I've seen it.

But how does one reach that level of certainty, you may ask. The answer: it's all in your head. Have faith in yourself and who you are, actively improve yourself, and work to become the man you want to be. If you are reading this now, it's a good start.

Most people worry too much about problems that never come to be or worry about what people will think. Whenever I find myself worrying about an issue, odds are that in a month or two it will all be insignificant. Don't let imagined worries prevent you from acting decisively.

Take baby steps and face your fears. Incorporate positive affirmations into your thought patterns (I CAN do it, I WILL voice my belief, I AM an asset to the company, etc.). It isn't easy and can certainly be frustrating, but slowly and surely you will become more sure of yourself.

Charisma

Another very important rule of attraction is charisma. People are naturally attracted to others who display high levels of positive energy. Every great leader and role model has it. These are the people that are leading armies, managing companies, and transforming the world around them. When you are the source of excitement and energy, people can't help but be sucked into your reality. This principle has unlimited applications in regards to a person's career, social life, and relationships.

I once had a friend who was always complaining and always negative. Something was always wrong and every time you would socialize with him, his negativity would spread to the people around him. Before long nobody wanted to hang out with him and he was shocked when his friends started avoiding him, which only caused more negativity from him. The truth of the matter is that he wasn't a bad or mean person, he just was always negative and unenergetic. This attitude pushes friends and family away, as I'm sure you all can relate to this.

On the other hand, have you ever had that teacher or friend or boss who was always positive and full of energy? This is the guy who made people feel good, look positively at the world, and would energize everyone around him. He had so much energy and attracted so many people into his reality, so that everyone felt like they could take over the world. This is the attitude we want. This is the attitude that attracts girls, creates leaders, and attracts people into your reality. Incorporate this positive mind set and energy into your life and all of your interactions.

Add Value

A slightly more complicated rule of attraction is adding value. A popular and very important saying in the study of social dynamics is that in all your social interactions, the person you interact with should be better off after the interaction than before it. By doing so people will look forward to socializing with you in the future since they will know how beneficial and fulfilling it is, in turn strengthening and expanding your social circle.

There are many ways to do this. A person can be left better off emotionally or intellectually. Examples of emotionally bettering someone in an interaction include complimenting them and making them feel better about themselves or helping relieve a person of their problems. Intellectual examples are enlightening a persons way of thinking on a topic or sharing a new point of view or telling someone an interesting fact or statistic. Other ways could be introducing the person to some of your friends or sharing the experience of going to somewhere interesting like a museum or a new restaurant.

After your interactions with family, friends, business professionals, or people you just met ask yourself whether you left them better off than before you interacted with them. Do they feel better about themselves? Did they learn something new or experience something worthwhile? Did they have a fun and exciting time? If not, think about ways to make sure they do benefit in the future. The difference is subtle, but once you start incorporating this principle into your social interactions, you will find people much more interested and attracted towards being with you.

Body Language

Body language is one of the most subtle, yet important rules of attraction. Do you convey yourself as strong and masculine or timid and feminine? Adjustments in behaviors as small as how you stand and how you move can have huge effects on creating attraction. People will always naturally be more attracted to a guy that stands up straight and remains calm over a nervous guy that stands slouched over.

If you've ever seen Brad Pitt in Fight Club you know what I mean. Brad Pitt conveys a sense of cool and control to those around him. Your goal is to emulate his actions and these physical signs of attraction will draw people in around you. If you convey these signs of attraction people will become more receptive towards you and more open to conversation and bonding so here's how:

DO's
-Stand up straight
-Move slowly
-Talk slowly and clearly
-Take up space
-Be decisive
-Make strong eye contact

DO NOT's
-Act nervous or afraid
-Move or act feminine
-Fidget with objects
-Keep hands in pockets
-Act without purpose

Those tips listed are just a general guide since otherwise I could go on forever. Keep your eyes open to the world around you. Look at others and see what looks strong and masculine versus what doesn't. Constantly analyze your own actions, improve upon them, and watch the difference in how people respond to you.

This article was written by Wispy from http://www.becomeatrueman.com/